How much will they nudge her to go to the dining room? (i.e. a wheel chair kept outside her apartment has been mentioned. How much is "too much nudging"?)
We use love to encourage folks to come to the dining room. We like to match up people who we think will get along well and look forward to seeing each other for meals, as encouragement as well. We will even sit with some residents ourselves to make sure they feel safe and looked after. Very often, people are embarrassed because they cannot see their food properly. We are very discreet, and make folks confident that they know exactly what to expect when in the dining room.